When I Say I get Free Products, I Really Don’t!

I want to apologize to all of those who I have given the impression that I get free, high-value stuff all the time.

I’ve been asked quite often how I get all of these nice things, and unfortunately I’ve seemed to boast about them. I founded Coupon Friendly over 4 years ago…and it took 2 of those years to really get my name out there, and finally legalize it as a business (hello, LLC.). I not only share deals, but I also test products out. I have a job (besides being a mommy of 5) – a mommy blogger…and yes, that is actually a job title. I get compensated in both money and products to try out. They pay for my time and my readership. So when I say I get free products, I really don’t.

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Being a mommy blogger isn’t one of those “get rich quick” schemes. You have to work for it, just like everything else. And patience…which was personally hard for me, because I simply have none! ūüôā ¬†Companies out there are always looking into finding ways to get their names out there. One of the cheapest ways to do that is to work with bloggers with a high number of readers. It not only is cheaper, but it eases the company’s mind knowing they most likely won’t get taken advantage of. Unfortunately there are people out there (including a few bad bloggers) who will take the product (or money) and run. As an LLC. – and even if I didn’t have a legal business – I have a reputation to uphold. I want to grow Coupon Friendly enough to have steady income to help my husband¬†(who also owns his own business, and is my IT Director for my website – lucky me!) and our family’s income. We have 5 young children to take care of.

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I work at home, on my own time (sounds like I’m self-employed, don’t I? haha), which I love. If I have an emergency with one or more of the children, I can take off work as long as I want. I don’t make money at that time, but that comes with the territory. It’s great having this opportunity to be a work at home mom. But that’s what I am….a work at home mom. I run a mommy blog. So when you see me post about “free” products that I have received, or compensated opportunities, let me reiterate what I should have been saying before. I greatly apologize. They’re not free. I work with that certain company and am paid in products.

With all that said, by checking out my Coupon Friendly website, you are helping support my business. Print coupons, share a recipe you enjoy, and comment on a review you liked reading. Every little bit helps!

If you have a blog, please comment below the link and what you’re all about, so we can check it out. Share your passion!

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I Don’t Want to Become My Mother

Out of all of the things posted, positive memes and messages that friends share on Facebook about their mothers probably bothers me the most. I think out of all five of her kids, I was the one closest to her as a child, but that soon changed once I became a teenager.

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Unfortunately, I don’t speak to my mom, which breaks my heart to the fullest. Many of my close friends have a pretty good relationships with their mothers – and believe me, I observe it closely, and have felt envious of the situation. A mother’s (just like a dad’s) position in a child’s life is vital. They watch us like a hawk, mimicking what we do and what we say. I didn’t have a good example. Occasionally, she would blame her ‘bad example’ on how she was raised, further explaining that God was understanding. I read that as “Oh God is okay with how I act, because I didn’t have a good childhood.” Growing up, I couldn’t help but to pardon her abusive actions towards my siblings and me, simply because of that statement. Nowadays, my siblings and I have little-to-no contact with our mother, which is sad all around.

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This does not work. Plain and simple!

I can’t tell you how often I fear of becoming my mother, and the strength of that fear sometimes overpowers me. So often, that I’m constantly reminding my kids how much I love them, and how sorry I am when my fuse is shorter than usual. Never do I want my kids to doubt my love for them. Never do I want my kids to remember their mom ¬†as being unhappy and always frustrated and overwhelmed, but as the fun, crazy, silly mom who loved her family and had a strong faith in God. I don’t call my kids names….why? Because I was called every name in the book, and grew up thinking I was worthless. I want my children to know how how important they are to me, and that they deserve all the happiness in the world. I want to have a good relationship with them. I want to know that when they grow up and have their own family, that they will strive to be good parents, love their spouses, and love their Heavenly Father.

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My kids asked me today if I loved my mother. It was so easy to answer. “Yes, absolutely” I replied. Of course I love my mother. My oldest explained that it didn’t seem to make sense to love someone who did bad things to others, but it was kind of like when her and her siblings would misbehave, I would still love them.

I believe hating someone leaves bitterness in your heart, and that grudge won’t let you move forward in your life. As Heavenly Father has forgiven me for my wrongdoings, I forgive her, and pray and think about her a lot, and hope she’s finding peace in her life, like I am. And I’m finding my peace by strengthening my faith in God.

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Hating others is a waste of time.

I’m grateful for the women who have been mother-figures, and great examples for me (you know who you are!). Family is essential to Heavenly Father’s plan, and it’s our job as parents to teach our kids love, compassion, respect, manners, and some silliness mixed in, so that we can help make this world a better place.

Tonight, I had a Panic Attack…And Made a Memory

To be honest, I really don’t understand the reasons for panic attacks. They’re stupid…plain and simple. I recall my mother having them when I was a kid, and her fear of having them kept her in her house. All. The. Time! I had hoped, growing up, not having to deal with such issues…but alas, it has happened. I heard panic attacks can be hereditary, but I don’t know for sure.

Anyways…tonight, I had a panic attack. I was already in a funk as it was, dealing with certain issues that I most certainly did not want to encounter – but I had to. We got home from an out-of-town trip, and it hit me slowly, growing with each passing minute. Then, it was to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore. I ran to our bedroom, where it was mostly quiet, and broke down. I hate feeling like this, I thought. I informed my husband of what was happening, and he assured me that he had the kids taken care of, and to take my time to calm my body down. 30 minutes later, I had chilled long enough…and I craved a walk. Not a long walk…maybe 15 minutes would do the trick.

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Two of my younger kids decided to come along with me, while my husband watched the others. And off we went – exploring our small neighborhood with a nice little walk in the sun. We played around, we sang together, we held hands, and I took a few beautiful pictures. After all, exercising releases the ‘happy endorphins’, right? Though it was a wicked hot 89 degrees outside, it was incredibly nice to spend a little bit of time with Sophia and Benny. They may not remember the memory, but I sure will. I love my kids!

Through the bad, came some much needed good!¬†I’m grateful to my Heavenly Father for opportunities to better my situations, both big and small.

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Does anyone else suffer from panic attacks? How do you cope with them?

My First “Where There’s A Willis” Post….But Not Really!

I’m a blogger – a coupon blogger, a mommy blogger, which ever one you consider me to be. I try to do it all within my Coupon Friendly blog (my LLC. – yep, I’m a legal business owner – go me!), including but not limited to sharing deals, freebies, DIY projects, super easy recipes, and reviewing products. I try to be pretty personal on there, but there’s only so far that I will go. 11143602_750062168447269_5896240061547780292_nToday, I thought to myself, “Hey, self! How about trying out a simple little personal blog, to keep family-friendly memories on to share with friends and family?” Yes! I concurred. What a fantastic idea. But what about a name?

It MUST be catchy, and clever. How could I incorporate my name in the title? It hit me quickly…

There’s a saying “Where there’s a will, there’s a way!” What a quote, right?! In the words of Jimmy MacElroy from Blades of Glory¬†(okay, it was actually Walt Disney), “If you can dream it, you can do it!” I’m not a perfect person or parent, but I’m working hard…and I have a strong desire to give my family the life that I didn’t have growing up. And if I want it bad enough, I can do just that.

So there we have it. “Where There’s A Willis”¬†was created. I’m so excited to be starting this new journey in my life. My posts may share some struggles I’m enduring, along with positive situations, hoping to show others that though I have gone through some hardships growing up, I’m going to come out of it better and stronger – and if I can, then anyone can! And I’ve come out of it because of my faith in my Heavenly Father (which I will also be writing about on this blog). I won’t be forgetting fun tips, projects and recipes, so stick around!

You’re about to learn about me…the REAL me. Get ready!

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